memories
Hello all Dracula and whatever la you are.
Had been chatting with James the whole night ytd.
from 11pm-5.50am.
we chat from a happy and sounded troubled voice.
into
sad,relax voice.
my biao jie ytd on msn chat with him.
idk what they say but.
i know something.
they wanted my troubles to come out.
They mean good.
and i know that.
James asked me why dont i look sad when i break with my gf.
kays.this question i got asked by lots of Dracula-s.
my answer was.
why do i need to go sad over her when i can find better ones?
i told myself that i dont need a gurl till my birthday end.
which is 23-3.
we shared our troubles.
dont you think friends are great?
we share our trouble and then try to help each other solve it.
How true friendships are born
But stop and think why you are friends. Here are a few common reasons why people become friends: - Common background, sharing a comfort level in company from "the same side of the tracks".
- Common current situation, being able to discuss parenting, home renovations, or some other major life circumstance.
- Common interest, such as cards, bowling, hunting, etc.
- For shy people, a person who actually approached you is a candidate for friendship.
- For leaders, somebody who seems content to follow is a likely candidate. Somebody you spend time with anyway, such as a colleague, sibling, etc, often becomes a friend.
- Somebody you see frequently anyway, such as a neighbor, store clerk, etc, could become a friend.
These are just a few reasons people choose friends. It is the easy, natural way, but it is not always in our best interest. Sure, we should always want to get along with colleagues, neighbors, siblings, and anybody else. But we should choose our friends, the people we open up to, very carefully. For instance, even a sibling can bring you down, pooh-pooh your dreams and load you up with negativity. "Ha! You think you can teach? What do you know about teaching?"
Even well-meaning friends can be dream-slashers. "Oh, do you really think you should go into business for yourself? I mean, what about security?"
On the other hand, some friends have a way of building up your dreams. "Go for it! You could really do well. And at worst, you'll at least have given it your best shot!"
Friends will often lend a hand. "Gee, I don't know much about fitness, but is there any way I can help you reach your goal?" Dream-slashers usually don't. "Hey, if you insist on pursuing this crazy scheme, leave me out of it."
A true friendship should:
- Encourage you to live your dream.
- Support you toward your goals.
- Sympathize for your losses and help you find a silver lining.
- Build your self-esteem.
If happiness and life-satisfaction are your goals, your friends should be chosen on the basis of how well they can accomplish those four goals. Happiness is a personal choice that comes from within. But, as my short friendship poem says, it sure doesn't hurt to have supportive friendships that help us achieve our goals.this thing is worth to share.:D
Just wanna let James know that he is important and that we should carry on our friendship.and you're unique.Thanks for everything yesterday.
